Domestic Violence Survivor's Warning For Women

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Tara Loo met the man who would nearly take her life in high school, but says the two didn't start dating until 15 years later.

"Within six months it went from that honeymoon phase to him trying to take my life," said Loo.

Loo said she ignored several signs: isolating her from her friends and family, pushing her, pulling out part of her hair and forceful sex.

"We would fight and he would be sexually aggressive after an argument," said Loo.

One night she decided she was done.

"I just went to bed and said, 'Forget this, I'll worry about it in the morning,'" Loo said. "I was unconscious and woke up in the bathroom and it was just like a murder scene around me. He had strangled me unconscious to the point of having internal injuries and bruising around my eyes and my ears."

Loo said she regained consciousness a few times.

"I was pleading with him that my kids can't grow up without a mom," she said.

Loo eventually woke up naked outside her home.

"I jumped the retaining wall and broke my foot...ran to a neighbor's and they didn't answer, ran to another neighbor, they didn't answer so I just sat in the shadows of this house because I knew he was still in the house, and just started screaming at the top of my lungs," said Loo.

A stranger walking by heard her and she was rushed to the hospital. Now, four years later, Loo wants other women to recognize warning signs and have a detailed plan to get out.

"I think a lot of women who are verbally or emotionally or mentally abused don't ever think it will go to that, but I just want people to know if he's capable of making you feel the way you are, there's a good chance they are capable of taking it to far," she said.

TESSA is a local domestic and sexual violence support group that can help you make a plan to get out and stay safe. If you or someone you know needs help, remember this 24 hour crisis number: 719-633-3819.